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Paris’s richest LGBTQ history site is a cemetery!

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Paris is one of the world’s great LGBTQ history cities—and Père Lachaise cemetery is possibly Paris’s richest LGBTQ history site!  How did it get that way?  Père Lachaise was the first garden cemetery—a trend in the 19th century that led to the creation of London’s so-called Magnificent Seven, New York’s Green-wood, and Boston’s Mount Auburn.  The garden cemeteries were meant as a kind of public park, and one of the attractions was to be the famous people buried there.

The founders of Père Lachaise started this off by moving some famous tombs to the new cemetery.  You see one of them above.  This is the tomb of the iconic romantic couple of the Middle Ages, the theologian Abélard and his abbess wife Héloïse.  This idea worked out well.  Père Lachaise is in fact a hugely popular tourist destination—the most visited cemetery in the world.  And the attraction is its famous ‘residents’, including such luminaries as Chopin, Rossini, and Jim Morrison.  LGBTQ celebrities are particularly prominent.  Oscar Wilde’s tomb is the most visited in the cemetery, and other famous residents from Paris’s LGBTQ history include Marcel Proust, Gertrude Stein, and Colette.

Here are three of my favorite LGBTQ history spots in the cemetery.  I will let you follow the tourist map to Oscar Wilde’s tomb on your own.  I only hope you will stop to say a prayer for his first lover and life-long friend Robbie Ross, who arranged for the tomb to be built and was himself buried in a niche in it.

Two Generals—possibly a gay couple?

But no tourist map will direct you to the joint tomb

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A gay couple? Tomb of 2 Napoleonic generals

of Pierre Augereau and Louis Le Moine.  Augereau and Le Moine were two of Napoleon’s generals.  They are buried together, under an inscription reading “Death separated them, now death reunites them.”  Were they a gay couple?  We cannot know.  Although Augereau got married twice, however, he is not buried with either wife.  And Le Moine, who died at 85, was never married.  It’s hard to guess how they ended up buried together.  There were however relatively modern gay people in Napoleon’s France.  One, for instance, is Jean-Jacques-Régis de Cambacérès, who is buried close by.  It isn’t certain, but Cambacérès may have been responsible for France legalizing same-sex relations between consenting adults in 1794—a little before the USA!  In any case, it’s a great example of the complications of LGBTQ history:  we have to guess at a lot of things, because much of the evidence for our history was not preserved.

A great painter:  lesbian, trans, intersex, gender-queer?

There is slightly less mystery about our next stop.  This is the tomb of the most successful woman painter in mid-19th century France, Rosa Bonheur.  Bonheur is not famous today.  In the mid-19th century, however, before the turn towards abstraction in art that started with the Impressionists, she was a huge star.  For example, the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York has a huge painting of a Horse Fair by Bonheur.  For this painting, Cornelius Vanderbilt II paid USD 80,000—about a third of the price of constructing the museum itself.

Bonheur was one of the those 19th century women who lived in a household with another woman.  Today we call this 19th century arrangement a ‘Boston marriage.’  Again, it’s hard to say whether these relationships were romantic/sexual, either in general or in many specific cases.  But we know they sometimes were.  And in any case, Bonheur also cross-dressed.  Thus, if we can use categories from today’s

Paris's richest LGBTQ history site
Gender-queer? Rosa Bonheur by her 2nd wife

view of gender and sexuality in discussing 19th century people, she may have been both a lesbian and trans.  Or perhaps she was (also?) intersex:  we would after all have no way of knowing.  In any case, we are probably justified in using the contemporary term ‘gender-queer’ for her.

Bonheur spent her adult life in two Boston marriages, the first with a woman called Nathalie Ducas, the second (after Ducas’s death) with an American painter called Anna Klumpke.  I will give you two images here.  One is a portrait of the elderly but still markedly gender-ambiguous Bonheur, painted by Klumpke.  The second is their tomb, or rather the Ducas family tomb, in which Nathalie is buried, but also Rosa and Anna both!

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Painter Rosa Bonheur and her two wives

 

Scandalous Colette

Finally, right by the cemetery’s main entrance is the tomb of Colette.  Colette (the subject of two recent English-language movies) is probably France’s best-known woman author.  She is very different from the famous English-language woman authors, because she wrote about much more scandalous topics.  One of her favorite themes was lesbianism—particularly prominent in her early Claudine novels, which are still very popular in France.  Another is high-class courtesans, who are the subject of her novel Chéri and her novella Gigi, from which

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Colette at Père Lachaise

the 1958 movie was taken.

Colette herself had a scandalous life, although a lot of it revolved around heterosexual relationships.  She created her biggest scandal, however, in 1907, when she was having an affair with cross-dressing aristocrat Mathilde de Morny—generally known as Max or uncle Max.  Colette and Max kissed on stage during a vaudeville performance at the Moulin Rouge.  I am giving you a photo of

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Colette and Trans Lover Mathilde/Max de Morny

Colette’s tomb, and also a historic photo of Colette and de Morny.

In short, don’t ignore France’s rich LGBTQ history the next time you are in Paris!  And don’t miss Père Lachaise Cemetery, possibly Paris’s richest LGBTQ history site!

(and also catch Oscar Wilde Tours’s Zoom tour of the cemetery the next time we give it!)

 

 

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October 28, 2026

We thoroughly enjoyed our trip through Italy with Professor Andrew Lear, who was a pleasure to travel with, and who provided fascinating insights about all the places we visited. Whether it was Ancient Rome, the Renaissance, or 1930’s Capri, it was like having access to the latest tea no matter how old the gay gossip was. We definitely saw places such as Paestum and Hadrian’s Villa that we would not have thought to go on our own, and gained new insights about places we had been to before but had not considered through a queer lens (even St. Peter’s Basilica at the Vatican!). Professor Lear also found us wonderfully knowledgeable local guides, and made sure we ate well throughout the trip. We appreciated his recommendations for additional things to see or eat during the unscheduled down times. We usually like to travel on our own, so this was our first organized tour group trip we had ever been on. I would say if you’re looking to go on an adventure, without all the fuss of planning, and want to experience a country’s highlights with a queer twist, don’t hesitate to book a trip with Oscar Wilde Tours!–Kenneth Hung

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October 9, 2026

This CMBYN northern Italy tour was my 3rd Oscar Wilde tour. That says something right there. First class all the way, from hotels, to food, to transportation, can’t ask for better. I was pleased that the premise of the tour was fulfilled as much as it could be. Fun to see the filming locations for the movie. But there was plenty else to “wow” us each day. I was gratified to obtain a ticket (through Andrew’s guidance) to attend a performance at La Scala (Milan) of “La Traviata.” And in Verona I got to attend a “popera” “The Hunchback of Notre Dame” at the Roman Arena. (Andrew facilitated those tickets.) Also outstanding were the architectual masterpieces of Andreas Palladio in Vicenza. And my first time in Venice proved to be quite eye-opening including a tour of St. Mark’s Basilica, and the Doge’s Palace. Excellent guides in each experience including our viewing of da Vinci’s “The Last Supper.” I could go on, but I won’t.

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July 22, 2026

I have been hoping for an England tour from Oscar Wilde Tours for years and I was very excited to see that wish fulfilled. It did not disappoint at all. The tour could be called the great English literary tour as we went from Shakespeare (Stratford on Avon + The Globe Theatre London), A walking tour of Bloomsbury (London) and then the homes of Virginia & Leonard Woolf, Duncan Grant and Vanessa Bell, Knole and Sissinghurst for Vita Sakeville West and Harold Nicholson. Bath was the point for all of our Jane Austen segments with visits to the Pump Room for tea and an optional trip to the Theatre Royal where Jane placed bits of her novels (Northanger Abbey and Persuasion). For dear Oscar Wilde we visited his Tite Street Home in London, Brighton where he and Bosie vacationed, Oxford University and Magdalen college where Oscar studied . Then a trip to York and Halifax to see where the fascinating Ann Lister lived and loved and wrote her diaries. All this plus Blenheim, the Royal Pavillion at Brighton and Howards Castle for a bit of Peerage living. Also included were marvelous meals ,an incredible local guide who kept us all together (amazing for a group of 15 and not as easy as one might think) . We had enough free time in London to see several plays and museums on our own although we did have a few museum tours included (a particularly good tour of the V & A with a wonderful guide). If you want to visit England and not just London but also the beauty of the countryside, the stately homes and gardens while enjoying the company of a lively group of fellow travelers, I cannot recommend Oscar Wilde Tours highly enough. Andrew packs your days with fascinating information on the sites visited and the people who lived in those places. Believe it or not, this is just the highlights, there was much more and all of it made for a very memorable trip

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