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People often ask how I went from doing gay secrets tours to shady ladies. How did a gay historian get interested in the history of female prostitution? First of all, a gay historian works on the history of sexuality, so the history of heterosexuality is not very far away from his topic, intellectually speaking. But it has much more to do with my tours of the Metropolitan Museum.

To find the works of LGBT interest in the Met, you have to know what you’re looking for: it’s like following a secret trail through hostile territory. But while you’re following it, you see a lot of works focusing on various kinds of prostitutes or scandalous women, including of course some very noticeable nudes.

Courbet’s Courtesan

For instance, on the way to the 19th century French Lesbian artist Rosa Bonheur’s self-portrait, my groups pass the unbelievably lascivious nude above. Sometimes I get the feeling that people don’t understand why I call her lascivious, but if you think about it, what is she meant to be doing? To put it simply, she’s lying on her back, playing with a *bird*—a symbol of male sexuality.  And as Dr. Ruth pointed out when she took my tour, she’s also clearly sexually aroused: she’s flushed, and her nipples are erect.

Interestingly, in 19th century France, this was not regarded as a scandalous painting. An oversexed woman in a luxurious setting was clearly a courtesan, and courtesans (called demimondaines, cocottes, etc.) were an accepted part of French life at the time. There was nothing scandalous about a sexually aroused courtesan, so long as you didn’t portray her too realistically. This painting idealizes the female form, or as we would say ‘airbrushes’ it—and according to the 19th century French, that is what artists were supposed to do.

Sargent’s Scandal

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John Singer Sargent portrait of Amélie Gautreau (“Madame X”)

This is in contrast to another painting in the museum that came to my mind as soon as I thought of the shady ladies tour, Sargent’s ‘Mme. X.’ This painting was a great scandal at the Salon 18 years after Courbet’s Woman with a Parrot, although to a modern eye it’s much less racy. I think, though, that the difference between the sitters’ statuses was important.

The woman with a parrot was a courtesan, while Mme. X was a society lady, so standards were different. A courtesan could lounge on her back in the nude, but a society lady couldn’t even wear a low-cut gown suggesting the shape of her breasts. And in the original version (which we know from an old photo that was discovered 30 years ago), one of her shoulder straps had also fallen down.

Now *that* was scandalous, implying that she was either about to get undressed or had just pulled on her clothes—perhaps after an adulterous fling. In fact, Sargent—and his model—were so upset by the scandal that he asked to be able to repaint the painting during the Salon and, when he was refused, repainted the shoulder strap as soon as he got the painting home to his studio.

 

 

Mistress to a King (or Two)

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Gainsborough Grace Dalrymple Elliott

Of course, the tour doesn’t consist only of things I already knew when I first thought of it. After I came up with the idea, I took a long wander through the museum, hunting for more courtesans and royal mistresses, and I came up with a lot of great material, including for instance a make-up table that belonged to one of Louis XV’s most famous mistresses, Mme. de Pompadour. Probably my favorite of all, though, is this portrait of Mrs. Grace Dalrymple Elliott. The Met is very conservative about labeling paintings, and it almost never mentions anything sexual, but in this case, even the Met calls her “a woman of great beauty but easy virtue.” And that she was.

Grace Elliott was the mistress of a number of important men, including the the future George IV, and Louis XVI’s cousin, the Duc d’Orléans—the one who voted to execute his cousin but later ended up on the guillotine himself as well. What I consider most interesting is that the portrait was commissioned by her main lover, the Marquess of Cholmondeley (pronounced ‘Chumley’) and hung in his house—although he was married. This shows (I think) that for an 18th century aristocrat, having a famously beautiful mistress was a point of honor: maybe it was even *better* if you had shared her with the Prince of Wales….

In any case, as you can see, Grace Elliott was quite an addition to the Shady Ladies tour, which covers sex workers and scandalous women, from ancient Greece to the 19th century, with much fascinating social history and history of sexuality…..  Join us, and learn that the Metropolitan (or rather art itself) is more fun than you realized!   For more information and tickets, see: https://www.zerve.com/OWTours/Ladies

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October 28, 2026

We thoroughly enjoyed our trip through Italy with Professor Andrew Lear, who was a pleasure to travel with, and who provided fascinating insights about all the places we visited. Whether it was Ancient Rome, the Renaissance, or 1930’s Capri, it was like having access to the latest tea no matter how old the gay gossip was. We definitely saw places such as Paestum and Hadrian’s Villa that we would not have thought to go on our own, and gained new insights about places we had been to before but had not considered through a queer lens (even St. Peter’s Basilica at the Vatican!). Professor Lear also found us wonderfully knowledgeable local guides, and made sure we ate well throughout the trip. We appreciated his recommendations for additional things to see or eat during the unscheduled down times. We usually like to travel on our own, so this was our first organized tour group trip we had ever been on. I would say if you’re looking to go on an adventure, without all the fuss of planning, and want to experience a country’s highlights with a queer twist, don’t hesitate to book a trip with Oscar Wilde Tours!–Kenneth Hung

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October 9, 2026

This CMBYN northern Italy tour was my 3rd Oscar Wilde tour. That says something right there. First class all the way, from hotels, to food, to transportation, can’t ask for better. I was pleased that the premise of the tour was fulfilled as much as it could be. Fun to see the filming locations for the movie. But there was plenty else to “wow” us each day. I was gratified to obtain a ticket (through Andrew’s guidance) to attend a performance at La Scala (Milan) of “La Traviata.” And in Verona I got to attend a “popera” “The Hunchback of Notre Dame” at the Roman Arena. (Andrew facilitated those tickets.) Also outstanding were the architectual masterpieces of Andreas Palladio in Vicenza. And my first time in Venice proved to be quite eye-opening including a tour of St. Mark’s Basilica, and the Doge’s Palace. Excellent guides in each experience including our viewing of da Vinci’s “The Last Supper.” I could go on, but I won’t.

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July 22, 2026

I have been hoping for an England tour from Oscar Wilde Tours for years and I was very excited to see that wish fulfilled. It did not disappoint at all. The tour could be called the great English literary tour as we went from Shakespeare (Stratford on Avon + The Globe Theatre London), A walking tour of Bloomsbury (London) and then the homes of Virginia & Leonard Woolf, Duncan Grant and Vanessa Bell, Knole and Sissinghurst for Vita Sakeville West and Harold Nicholson. Bath was the point for all of our Jane Austen segments with visits to the Pump Room for tea and an optional trip to the Theatre Royal where Jane placed bits of her novels (Northanger Abbey and Persuasion). For dear Oscar Wilde we visited his Tite Street Home in London, Brighton where he and Bosie vacationed, Oxford University and Magdalen college where Oscar studied . Then a trip to York and Halifax to see where the fascinating Ann Lister lived and loved and wrote her diaries. All this plus Blenheim, the Royal Pavillion at Brighton and Howards Castle for a bit of Peerage living. Also included were marvelous meals ,an incredible local guide who kept us all together (amazing for a group of 15 and not as easy as one might think) . We had enough free time in London to see several plays and museums on our own although we did have a few museum tours included (a particularly good tour of the V & A with a wonderful guide). If you want to visit England and not just London but also the beauty of the countryside, the stately homes and gardens while enjoying the company of a lively group of fellow travelers, I cannot recommend Oscar Wilde Tours highly enough. Andrew packs your days with fascinating information on the sites visited and the people who lived in those places. Believe it or not, this is just the highlights, there was much more and all of it made for a very memorable trip

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